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apellido · 01-08-2007, 02:13 PM

Are you addicted to Love's symptom and mostly unfamiliar with love itself? Are you addicted to the feeling that love can sometimes give you instead of being committed to others by way of choice? Do you find yourself only looking to feel good and using people in your life to help you feel that way instead of owning your own emotions and taking responsibility for how you think and subsequently feel. Knowing that our emotions respond directly to our thoughts can help us to understand that we need to control how we look at things in order to control how we feel. We do not have to allow our emotions to control us, therefore produce uncontrolled addictive behavior. We can control our emotions by controlling how we choose to look at people, things and our environment. What we think about things determines our reality; not in some mysterious or metaphysical way, but merely by the fact that we can only see things according to our interpretation of said things. Think of some typical stereotypes and you'll understand how our preconceived notions can determine how we view and subsequently respond. Sometimes our thoughts of people, things and our environment can become a self-fulfilling prophesy. We can literally talk ourselves out of things, by believing them too good to be true or not having enough faith in people. People never try their hand at some things because they have convinced themselves that they are not good enough or fear rejection so much that they insult, shun, curse and drive away whatever they fear (or is related to their fear). When we allow our emotions to control us we then believe that we need to control others, things and our environment in order to feel certain ways. No one wants to feel negative emotions, so they do everything they can to only feel positive ones. However life is designed for us to experience its ebb and flow, positive and negative, yin and yang! Our addictions to only positive emotions fuel our behavior in trying to control and manipulate the world around us and the people in it just for the purposes of suiting our fancy. You have people who claim to be Christian whose only purpose for evangelizing is to get others around them to behave decently so they can feel safe and secure, not for the purpose of the pure interest of the one they have evangelized. You have male and female courtiers who have a preconceived notion and vision of the perfect mate... even before they meet that someone. They then spend the rest of their relationship (sometimes lives) trying to get their mate to conform and change into their idea of Mr. /Mrs. Right. We go through so much angst, stress and conflict trying to get our mates to change to suit our desires. If we start owning our emotions and stop making others responsible for how we feel, then maybe we can begin to see how we can truly be content and peaceful. In being responsible for our own emotions we then deal better with each other... blame falls away and we then become more attractive to our mates. It's not that all relationship-related strife and conflict will go away, but the more practised we are the less trials we have to endure. Stop merely pursuing the symptom of love and quest now for love itself!

"YOU ARE WHAT YOU LOVE AND NOT WHAT LOVES YOU!"

01-08-2007, 02:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
apellido Noogle Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 2 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Love's Symptom (continued) Are you addicted to Love's symptom and mostly unfamiliar with love itself? Are you addicted to the feeling that love can sometimes give you instead of being committed to others by way of choice? Do you find yourself only looking to feel good and using people in your life to help you feel that way instead of owning your own emotions and taking responsibility for how you think and subsequently feel. Knowing that our emotions respond directly to our thoughts can help us to understand that we need to control how we look at things in order to control how we feel. We do not have to allow our emotions to control us, therefore produce uncontrolled addictive behavior. We can control our emotions by controlling how we choose to look at people, things and our environment. What we think about things determines our reality; not in some mysterious or metaphysical way, but merely by the fact that we can only see things according to our interpretation of said things. Think of some typical stereotypes and you'll understand how our preconceived notions can determine how we view and subsequently respond. Sometimes our thoughts of people, things and our environment can become a self-fulfilling prophesy. We can literally talk ourselves out of things, by believing them too good to be true or not having enough faith in people. People never try their hand at some things because they have convinced themselves that they are not good enough or fear rejection so much that they insult, shun, curse and drive away whatever they fear (or is related to their fear). When we allow our emotions to control us we then believe that we need to control others, things and our environment in order to feel certain ways. No one wants to feel negative emotions, so they do everything they can to only feel positive ones. However life is designed for us to experience its ebb and flow, positive and negative, yin and yang! Our addictions to only positive emotions fuel our behavior in trying to control and manipulate the world around us and the people in it just for the purposes of suiting our fancy. You have people who claim to be Christian whose only purpose for evangelizing is to get others around them to behave decently so they can feel safe and secure, not for the purpose of the pure interest of the one they have evangelized. You have male and female courtiers who have a preconceived notion and vision of the perfect mate... even before they meet that someone. They then spend the rest of their relationship (sometimes lives) trying to get their mate to conform and change into their idea of Mr. /Mrs. Right. We go through so much angst, stress and conflict trying to get our mates to change to suit our desires. If we start owning our emotions and stop making others responsible for how we feel, then maybe we can begin to see how we can truly be content and peaceful. In being responsible for our own emotions we then deal better with each other... blame falls away and we then become more attractive to our mates. It's not that all relationship-related strife and conflict will go away, but the more practised we are the less trials we have to endure. Stop merely pursuing the symptom of love and quest now for love itself! "YOU ARE WHAT YOU LOVE AND NOT WHAT LOVES YOU!"