30 seconds to impress

warzabidul · 04-16-2006, 12:16 PM

According to research in Edinbrugh as men we only have 30 seconds to impress but this was in a speed dating contest. brbrAny thoughts?br

Karin Brix · 04-16-2006, 12:41 PM

I read somewere it takes 30 seconds to impress or not as the case may be (!) And after that it takes 4 minutes to destroy or build up a new picture... But isnt all about learning to know people without prejudice? Even your first impressions tell you to go, you should give people a chance...

Disneygirl · 04-17-2006, 05:33 AM

First impressions are important but but I think the last impression you make is the one people remember.

Anita · 04-17-2006, 06:53 AM

I agree with Disneygirl. Many of my friends told me that when we first met, they thought that I was mean, but when we met again, there was somthing about me that told them that their first impression was untrue.

Besides, I think that you should just be yourself, and not go all out of your way to try to make a good impression. People can often see though a phony act.

Of course, its different if you are going for a job--you'd want to make that good first impression!

warzabidul · 04-17-2006, 07:02 AM

How often do you meet people and where do you meet them. What are you doing?

If you meet a person who's boarding a train or plane then chances are you'll think nothing of it. if you meet someone who's arriving you'll think another way.

If you meet someone at a bar your attitude may be more open since this a place to meet.

What about the same person at a nightclub? You'd probably blank them

What about someone on a hike. You always say hello but would there be more if they were of the same age?

What about on a chat or via ICQ or Yahoo?

And orkut or myspace.

All of these mean that the time you give people to introduce themselves are different.

How many people regret not being as active as they could have been? Almost everyone probably...

Glittering generalities are a good talking point

Karin Brix · 04-17-2006, 08:42 AM

I agree that you should meet everybody with an open mind and not dismiss somebody because of what is on the surface, however culture is very different…. When travelling in Arabic or African countries you realise very fast that everybody is talking to you and are very keen to know about you and where you come from. But if you travel in some countries here in Europe people will very often not even answer if you ask for directions! True as you say in a bar or nightclub it is easier, but I am sorry to say I think it is either “the hunt” or alcohol letting go of the tongue. Sadly enough as a woman I also have to be a bit careful about whom I talk more than briefly with if I am alone. My intensions of just being friendly could be misunderstood…
And it is easier to talk to a stranger over the net!

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04-16-2006, 12:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
Karin Brix Junior Googler Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Denmark, Sweden Posts: 40 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I read somewere it takes 30 seconds to impress or not as the case may be (!) And after that it takes 4 minutes to destroy or build up a new picture... But isnt all about learning to know people without prejudice? Even your first impressions tell you to go, you should give people a chance...

04-17-2006, 05:33 AM	#3 (permalink)
Disneygirl Noogle Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Ga Posts: 7 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	First impressions are important but but I think the last impression you make is the one people remember.

04-17-2006, 06:53 AM	#4 (permalink)
Anita Senior Googler Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 233 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I agree with Disneygirl. Many of my friends told me that when we first met, they thought that I was mean, but when we met again, there was somthing about me that told them that their first impression was untrue. Besides, I think that you should just be yourself, and not go all out of your way to try to make a good impression. People can often see though a phony act. Of course, its different if you are going for a job--you'd want to make that good first impression!

04-17-2006, 07:02 AM	#5 (permalink)
warzabidul Senior Googler Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 110 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	How often do you meet people and where do you meet them. What are you doing? If you meet a person who's boarding a train or plane then chances are you'll think nothing of it. if you meet someone who's arriving you'll think another way. If you meet someone at a bar your attitude may be more open since this a place to meet. What about the same person at a nightclub? You'd probably blank them What about someone on a hike. You always say hello but would there be more if they were of the same age? What about on a chat or via ICQ or Yahoo? And orkut or myspace. All of these mean that the time you give people to introduce themselves are different. How many people regret not being as active as they could have been? Almost everyone probably... Glittering generalities are a good talking point

04-17-2006, 08:42 AM	#6 (permalink)
Karin Brix Junior Googler Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Denmark, Sweden Posts: 40 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I agree that you should meet everybody with an open mind and not dismiss somebody because of what is on the surface, however culture is very different…. When travelling in Arabic or African countries you realise very fast that everybody is talking to you and are very keen to know about you and where you come from. But if you travel in some countries here in Europe people will very often not even answer if you ask for directions! True as you say in a bar or nightclub it is easier, but I am sorry to say I think it is either “the hunt” or alcohol letting go of the tongue. Sadly enough as a woman I also have to be a bit careful about whom I talk more than briefly with if I am alone. My intensions of just being friendly could be misunderstood… And it is easier to talk to a stranger over the net!

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