I shouldn't have gone? What would you all have done?

[Juhanah]

PFONT face=Courier color=#8a2be2 size=2I had gotten the news a few days back of the death of one of my dad's friends and the second was the death of my ex-friends aunt. I know that her and her aunt were very close. It was so hard for me that day cuz we weren't friends anymore we had lost touch for four years and she missed two big events in my life. I kind of couldn't forgive her for that aside from all the drama we had over something I felt really wasn't worth it anymore. I was stuck with the dilemma of whether or not I should go see her today and pay my respects to her Aunt that had passed. I talked to someone about it and told them the complete story. Their advice to me was to go. It was a good advice after the story they had told me. Seems they went through a very similar issue. So I took the advice and went with a friend (which was also suggested) so that I wouldn't back out...and she kicked me out. She said that I'm trying to make some sort of poin by being there.. and like I want to prove I'm better than her... I kind of feel like I should have never gone!--emo&--!--endemo--and to think we were inseparable at one point. Makes me so sad. Maybe I shouldn't have gone? What would you all have done?/FONT

[mondine]

I think you did the right thing by going.
All we can control in our lives is our actions. Not how they are perceived by others.
If you went to be supportive of your former friend, because you felt it was the right thing to do,
then going was being true to your own best instincts.
It's unfortunate that your friend didn't see it that way, but your conscience can rest
assured that you tried, and acted in good faith.
That's all one can really do.

[tokkolo]

Originally Posted by mondine

I think you did the right thing by going.
All we can control in our lives is our actions. Not how they are perceived by others.
If you went to be supportive of your former friend, because you felt it was the right thing to do,
then going was being true to your own best instincts.
It's unfortunate that your friend didn't see it that way, but your conscience can rest
assured that you tried, and acted in good faith.
That's all one can really do.

^^ Mondine has said it all and in a very good way. I can't add anything to that. You did the right thing by going.

[Juhanah]

SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: Courier"SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 100%"SPAN style="COLOR: blueviolet"Thanks for the reply Modine and you too Tokkolo .Well the thing is that she was a good person at one point in time, but she wasn't who I thought she was!--emo&--!--endemo--I mean I got over it. A shame she didn't. I guess it was the right thing, but I kind of feel like I added her more stress and pain by being there. It hurts when I think back about how one time we were so close like sisters and then the past four years it's like complete strangers. I kind of still hold a grudge for the fact that she missed those two events. I guess that's why I felt I should go. I didn't want to be her friend again, but I thought it would be a kind of closure...like I can not like her and she can also dislike me, but we can put it aside when worse comes to worse.Anyway I still wanna what you guys think I mean all point of views can't be the same ..isn't it ?[/color][/color][/color]
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SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: Courier"SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 100%"SPAN style="COLOR: blueviolet"[/color][/color][/color]SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: Courier"SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 100%"SPAN style="COLOR: blueviolet"Thanks again for the reply it helps put my mind at ease a little [/color][/color][/color]