Marriage.

[rahat230182]

FONT face=Verdana color=#407f00 size=6When two people of different gender become one the end result is two half people. This is known as marriage. There are two types of marriage. One is arrange marriage and the other one is love marriage. Different people have different idea about marriage. Some prefer arrange marriage and some prefer love marriage. But, in my case I think arrange is better. The marriage which is mainly decided by the family level is arrange marriage. The marriage which is natural is love marriage. Age is not important for love marriage. But love is not the heart of life it is only a part of life. The main issue of arrange marriage is first marriage then love. But main issue of love marriage is first love then marriage.Marriage is the combination of two different souls of either similer gender or different gender. Now I want to know your opinion about marriage (arrange and love).Only applicable for young generation or people not yet married or plan to marry. /FONT

[puppynut5]

An arranged marriage completely misses the whole point of getting married at all. Why get married to someone whom you don't love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is not supposed to be done just because "you have to", just becuase your parents set it up. Marriage is all a matter of personal choice and preference. I am not married right now but I'm sure as time goes along I will some day but it won't be till I'm out of the Marine Corps, finished with college, and settled into a decent job so I can support a family.

[mondine]

Of those two, I guess that either is fine, as long it is the
informed, and uncoerced choice of the individuals involved.

And there are many more than two reasons to marry. For lust, for money, for security, etc.

(Oh, and you might consider using a text size that's not quite so huge.)

[Anita]

Iam leery of arranged marriages. From what I have heard, often, neither person knows the other. These folks have to learn abouteach other, and their families, while learning to love each other. In the vast majority of love marriages, the couple has already learned about their partner, and the partner's family, if they have one, or are in communication with them.

I guess for me, it comes down to choice. In an arranged marriage, one has no choice. The marriage is a done deal, with allof the particulars decided by someone else,and the couple must make their way. In a love marriage, one can choose his or her partner, the wedding date, etc.

I sense that the bottom line on how a person feels about marriage types will depend on what culture that person comes from. If the person comes from a culture where arranged marriages are common, the chances are fairly goodthat that personmay prefer, and see the benefits of arranged marriages, while a person who comes from a culture where love marriages are the norm will most likelyopt for them, insted.

[mischievous_honey08]

I think no one will like an arrange marriage. coz you don't know what will happen to your future... maybe that marriage will end up to divorce if you don't know your partner very well

[peterk]

Personally I don't like arranged marrages but as long as the people are not forced into it, physically or pscycologically I think that it is probarbly acceptical.

[samurai_from_mars]

there's another point i'd like to raise here (from what i saw in people around me): it's true that a lot of the arranged marriages end up in unhappiness and divorce, but the few ones where the 2 people come to love eachother are a lot more stable and strong than those out of love.
the explanation is simple enough: when you fall in love with someone right after you meet them, you tend to place a sort of "aura" of perfection onto them, ignore their flaws, etc. and this may work for the first few months/years, but afterwards, when the enthousiasm fades off, you start to be aware of the fact that the person next to you is not as perfect as you thought it was and become dissapointed in the flaws they have. Such dissapointments can often lead to "falling out of love" and divorce.
On the other hand, when you marry a person without being in love with them, you become aware of their real self, with flaws and all. and if eventually you grow to love that person, you will love them in spite of their flaws (and not ignoring/denying their flaws, like in the previous case). This leads to a lot less dissapointment or to no dissapointment at all, since you fell in love knowing exactly how the person next to you is.

[dauodwa]

Originally Posted by puppynut5

An arranged marriage completely misses the whole point of getting married at all. Why get married to someone whom you don't love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is not supposed to be done just because "you have to", just becuase your parents set it up. Marriage is all a matter of personal choice and preference. I am not married right now but I'm sure as time goes along I will some day but it won't be till I'm out of the Marine Corps, finished with college, and settled into a decent job so I can support a family.

brbrWell, its true that you shouldnbt be forced into it; in culture, the parents find a suitable person for their son/daughter and present that person to them and the son/dughter can decide for themselves. Thats fair enough isnt it?br

[COD3]

I hate marriage!
marriage is LOVE's grave!
If you know what I mean!

[chevydriver1123]

If you love the person and the person loves you go right ahead but think about it first. I personaly do not want to get married because I have no intent in having children and that every married adult in my family has been divorced at least once so that doesnt paint a good picture for me.